Lukewarm Christian Feeling Empty and in Bondage

Hey Joe,

Paul speaks about the freedom that can be found in Christ. It’s a spiritual freedom and does not really depend on following rules, as many legalists would have you believe. You’ll need to explain to me what kind of bondage you are feeling so that I can give you my advice. If you are lukewarm or cold and not filled with the Spirit, but just sort of following a few commands here and there, perhaps in the hopes of getting into heaven or whatever, you will probably feel empty and miss out on God’s bountiful grace and love. The first two commandments talk about love and this is the most important part of the bible’s message.

Karel

 Dear Sir, Thank you for your free counseling and that you have taken time in your busy day to get back to me. I am certainly in need of help from God. I right now live in a state of bondage that I’ve prayed many times would end. I’ve been stuck in a lonely and desperate life for years. I accepted Christ many years ago, but have always either been a lukewarm or cold christian. I have been good as far as giving to some godly ministries that I like. The Lord said give and it will be given to you. I’m not asking for alot, but I need a new life. I need freedom or I would rather be dead. I can’t stand living like this anymore.

Hey Joe, it really sounds like you need to get out of your situation – job and place. Perhaps you could start saving up money for your move, and that will encourage you and give you something to look forward to. Perhaps you could start emailing or something with people in your next destination, to also encourage you and give you faith. Like the bible says: “The best that man can achieve is to eat [the Word of God], drink [from the Holy Spirit] and be glad with the work of his hands. This is a gift from God.” If you are not intent and fulfilled with your job, which consumes most of your waking day, and then get back home to an environment where there is no love, no wonder you are depressed. I’ve been traveling on the road for the past five years (I work through the internet and live in a caravan – kenax.net/travel) and find great and positive people everywhere I go. If I don’t like or get bored of an area I simply fire up the beast and move on. There are beautiful and supportive pastures everywhere, so just start moving towards that. Make sure you are prepared, and you can research in advance (such as different places, or start applying for work). Just going to sleep to not have to deal with life is not living at all. Better to start taking steps towards the better, and have a goal you can put your hopes in. That will strengthen and encourage you. Make sure you are prepared and don’t just test God, as Jesus did not either when the devil tempted him to jump off the cliff.

Hope things start to improve for you!

Karel

 Thank you for getting back to me so quickly. This shows that you really care. My problems, especially in the mind go back to when I was a child. I had a series of tragedies with the death of my parents and brother in a short time span. I never did develop right in my mind. I have always used fantasy or my imagination to picture my self in a different or more positive way than my current situation. The bondage that I live in may be demonic or mental in origin, or both. I am unable to commit emotionally and so I have never married. I am plagued with different fears, one being driving, so I’m held back in making progress. I have a hard time making decisions, and when I do they are mostly the wrong decisions. I tend to be depressed alot because of my life and the inablity to break out of this way of life. I spend time either at my job or at home in my apartment by myself where all I do is think mostly about my situation. I don’t have a great deal of contact with my family, and the people I do see are fellow workers and customers. I’ve lived this way for many years, but reading your story and showing your concern gives me hope. I’ve tried different mininistries and couceling, including deliverence ministries. None of these have helped. I’ve prayed alot and had people pray for me as well as practice the gift of giving. I just seem to stay stuck in this hole that I’m in. What I need Karel is help from God, and help from other people. I want to be delivered from this life so bad that I can taste it. I just can’t stand living like this anymore. I live in an area that I hate because there is no sense of community here. People pretty much keep to themselves and don’t interact with one another. Also, I have a job that I thank God for, but am not suited for at all. I want to live somewhere else, and have a job that I like and is more suited for me. Recently a couple of friends of mine have suggested that I move back to the town where I grew up and step out in faith and try to find a job there. I’d love to get out of where I live, but I worried that I won’t find anything there. I lack faith and trust in God. I have been praying that God would open a door first then I would make the move. What do you think Karel? Well thank you and God bless you for you concern. It is great to have someone who can encourage you and advise you. Recently I have started again the practice of sleeping alot when I’m not working. It’s because I want to turn my mind off and because I don’t have much to do outside of work. This is no way to live a life, and I do not want to live this way anymore. So thanks again and I hope to hear from you real soon. Thanks for taking time to care. 

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