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Overcoming porno addiction

Hi there, I’m X and I’ve been addicted to online porn for a while, I finally confessed and got prayer, and now I’m walking in a path of holiness. Nevertheless I\’d like very much to have somebody who I can send a short weekly report, (just like a tweet) for the next 6 months. If that\’s Ok for you please let me know. Thanks a lot. God bless you.

No problem

-Week 2-

Awesome! This is my 2nd week since I quit. I only felt a little bit tempted one day this week, but didn’t give in.
If I can stay away from porn 6 months I also can for the rest of my life.
It’s a blessing for me to report to somebody. Thanks for your time.

I was actually thinking of this today morning and would like to say the following. I think many organised religions use guilt and the fear of death and burning in hell for eternity (I do not believe is true) as a means to control the population. The “freedom found in Christ” as mentioned by Saint Paul in the bible is free of such feelings of guilt. But Paul also says that Christ’s forgiveness does not automatically come with a ticket to do whatever you want. I think you should focus on developing yourself spiritually and the rest should follow naturally, as opposed to focusing on not sinning and hope that leads to higher spirituality. I once translated a book about positive thinking. It explains that the subconscious mind does not understand negative. So if you imagine a beer and tell yourself not, your subconscious mind sees the beer, over and over again, but does not register the “not”, and ends up bombarding your conscious mind with desires for the beer. So the trick is to replace the image of the beer with something else, such as a tea made from honey and ginger root (very healthy). If an image of beer comes to your mind, associate it with something very ugly and distasteful, which can subconsciously eventually create an aversion and distaste against it. One danger is, to follow the path of using your own willpower to deny yourself of some lusts can eventually lead to self-righteousness, which Paul also preached against. So it is a tricky balance and fine line to walk, through the pearly gates as the good book says. 🙂

-Week 3-
I agree completely with everything you say. I’m trying to focus my time on the things that are really important to my life, instead of thinking of what I shouldn’t do. That’s part of the reason I prefer to report weekly instead of daily, and why I googled about christian counseling instead of going to one of those forums where people report and give feedback to each other… I really don’t think I could bear the burden of someone else struggling with the same issues… At least not yet. This wasn’t an easy week: Half the way through I found myself following some wrong thumbnails (inside Youtube, with the restricted mode on, but wrong nonetheless) and I hate it. I don’t think it deserved starting my weekly count all over, but it was playing with fire and I don’t want to do it! Well, that’s it for now, I hope I’ll give a better report next week. Thanks and God bless.

yah, can’t imagine great benefit in talking to others with the same weakness. You’d just be focusing your minds on the same thing, dwelling on it, and I think the temptation would increase.
Another thought occurred to me, maybe instead of telling yourself that if you can manage 6 months you can manage the rest of your life, you should start by saying if you can manage one week then you can manage three, and if three than 6 and work yourself up incrementally. Because if for some reason you fail your first six months, it might discourage you and you might get down on yourself as a life loser or something and would be hard to motivate again. Every day counts brother!

-Week 4- Hi there! This has been a very good week, I have been busy doing lots of things and didn’t even have to face temptation once, It would be great not to struggle ever again, but I guess the world doesn’t work like this, so the other option is just to grow stronger and overcome it when temptation returns. The whole idea of the six months is something that came to my mind 2 or 3 years ago, I can’t really tell for sure: “God asked me to stay 6 months out of it” but that’s how it felt to me… and I think the closer I got to that was 2 or 3 months.
My goal is to walk in holiness forever, its just that I had for a long time that feeling that God had something in mind connected with 6 months and I finally in shape to get there. Thanks for listening. God Bless.

Then if it felt like God was saying six months and you feel this is some kind of conviction, it is great you are going for it. If you will take the challenge to walk down the path of complete holiness, I send you my blessings. Whatever degree you manage will make you a better person, and happier, although soul building inevitably comes with suffering, so it is good to be mentally prepared for that. After a while it becomes a bit like going to the gym, pumping the muscles hard, other times it can cut deep into your heart like a double edged sword and reach areas you never knew existed, but discovering that new ground is what soul building is about.

-Week 5- Yes, I guess soul building is God’s purpose behind all this.
As I told you, I got this feeling that God wanted me to overcome porn addiction and stay away from it for at least 6 months, before I could move into the next level of His plans for my life (Maybe marriage, ministry or something else) It was almost 3 years ago, and the best I did since then was probably 2 or 3 months one time. But then I became arrogant, I thought I had it all under control, started to feel invincible and superior to everybody else and lowered the guard. There was no soul building going on and I failed. This time I want to be mentally prepared as you say.
This has been another easy week, no external temptations coming my way and nothing strong from the inside either. Thanks for your support.

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